Wednesday, February 08, 2017

What To Do, What To Do...

In the time it's been since I was blogging regularly, so much of my life has changed. Mark's out on his own, Kira's a high school junior, I have a cat, I'm back to my first, best therapist (twice a week), and I've become obsessed with politics.

We'll focus on that last one, because that's the source of the dilemma that led to this post.

The majority of this blog was pretty much just me rambling about various me-centric issues. It was a space for me to put down the things that have happened with me and my kids, some nonesensical ramblings, and just day-to-day things that were pretty much only important to me.

Then the country went insane and we ended up with...well...the current person in the Oval Office.

Now a HUGE part of my life is caught up in trying to deal with my fledgling experiences as someone who cares about politics. For most of my life, I was deliberately politically ignorant. I had a hard enough time dealing with the things that immediately surrounded me, I didn't have the emotional energy (or interest) in moving beyond that scope to things that I really didn't feel I had any possibility of changing. I don't handle the feeling of helplessness well, so why would I deliberately subject myself to that?

Not sure how that exactly changed, but it did, and now I'm all into the political stuff. And I'm liberal (I know, that's so surprising to anyone who has read even a little bit of my stuff). I feel an obligation to speak up and work to try to improve what's going on.

I need to be able to work a lot of this out in my head by writing it down. Gee, like maybe...blogging!

BUT.

This was pretty much a mommy-blog. Do I leave this blog and start another one, or stay here?

There are pros and cons to both. The biggest 'con' is that if I end up getting read (I know, bold thinking, considering the bazillions of other, better, more involved writers out there), I'm afraid that the rest of my blog, my previous years, will get negatively impacted, and I don't want that.

However. Having all this history here is also helpful.

Dunno. Maybe I'll link it. Maybe I'll just start the other blog and if I don't like it, I'll transfer the posts here.

I'll keep you...um...posted. ~mk

Saturday, January 21, 2017

No, It's Not Deja-Vu, It's Plagiarism

Trump and his team are...well, fucked up. One of the more fucked-up things they keep doing is copying Obama. For someone who spent so many YEARS bitching that Obama wasn't a real citizen and therefore wasn't a legitimate President, Trump sure seems to want to be just like him.

* Melania's speech, copying Michelle Obama's speech.
* Trump's first POTUS Twitter header, which was a photo from OBAMA'S inauguration



* Trump's inauguration cake was deliberately commissioned to be an exact duplicate of Obama's...but not by the original cake maker. Also, while the original cake had each layer a different flavor, Trump's was made of styrofoam, except for a 3-inch slice on the bottom (the part he cut with the sword). WTF. And it wasn't mentioned until the original cake designer spoke up.



* A line from Trump's speech echoes that from Bane (Batman villian).



* Trump's joke at the Alfred Smith Dinner was plagiarized from a cartoon on RollCall in July, by RJ Matson. Trump plagiarized a joke about Melania's plagiarism.



So much of Trump seems to fall under the category of "you just cannot make this shit up". It's ridiculous, really. And the biggest question seems to be WHY? This is not coincidental. This is deliberate. And it makes no sense.

Plagiarism in general seems to be a Trump-team thing. His pick for a National Security Council position, Monica Crowley, stepped down because it was revealed that large parts of her published book were plagiarized, as was her PhD DISSERTATION.

Ivanka was sued for copying shoe styles for her brand.

Trump apparently lifted about 20 pages in his Trump University "textbooks" from a 1995 series "Real Estate Mastery System".

His campaign copied voter registration instructions (out of date, at that) from various websites, without giving credit.

He copied a lot of an op-ed he published in Guam News in March 2016 from one written by Ben Carson.

He filed to trademark his slogan "Make America Great Again"...except that was REAGAN'S campaign slogan. Trump still insisted he made it up.

I'd question how the man got elected, but the answer to that is one part Hillary haters and about five parts Russia/GOP collusion.

It will be interesting to see what Trump decides to steal of Obama's next. Again, for people who spent so much time bashing the Obamas, Trump's team seems very eager to -literally- copy them. ~mk

Sunday, January 15, 2017

More Than One Way To Skin a Cat

Since I was a kid, I've been using the phrase: "There are multiple methods to de-fur a feline."

Interestingly, most people just stare blankly at me when I say this.

Yet, "there's more than one way to skin a cat" is immediately understood.

Oh, people.

~mk

Saturday, August 06, 2016

Hey, Wow, I Still Have a Blog!

Every once in awhile, I think to myself that I should get back to blogging. So, here I be. Who knows if I'll keep this up, but we'll give it a go.

A quick snapshot of my current life: Mark's got his own place and a girlfriend. They've been together for about seven months; she is a very nice girl, and the two are geekily adorable. He dropped out/flunked out/couldn't afford to keep paying for/ college, and is currently working full-time at a hardware store. Kira's still living at home, alternating a couple of weeks here with a couple of weeks at her dad's. She's got a long-distance girlfriend whom she met online but hasn't met in real life yet (there was supposed to be a visit here this summer, but the logistics fell apart). She's done a tiny little bit of dating here, but mostly thinks that the boys are still immature (of course they are), and a foray into dating one of her friends got too complicated when Kira wasn't as into it as the other girl was. K -did- get her first kiss, though, so that was cool. Kira went to France in April with a school group, and in May spent a long weekend at the Breadloaf Campus of Middlebury College in Vermont at the New England Young Writer's Conference. To be selected as a sophomore was quite an honor, and she absolutely loved every second of it.

Last winter I adopted Secret, a beautiful black cat, from the local shelter. Secret had lived there for TEN YEARS. She's got anxiety issues, but so do I, and she's a pretty awesome cat. Someday she might even get used to the idea of me picking her up. Right now she's lying across my arms as I'm typing on my laptop. Kira doesn't like her, which is disappointing, but probably better for me, because I am unquestionably Secret's human.

A lot of my life since Mark moved out has revolved around Kira, but K just got her license a few days ago, so she'll be slowly slipping further into her independence. Time for me to start practicing for the empty nest coming in a couple of years!

I've decided that I'm tired of feeling ashamed of my mental illnesses, so I'm speaking up more about them, just being more frank and transparent. I've gotten an astonishing (to me) amount of support, which rather makes me wish I had come to this decision ages ago. I'm also being more vocal about supporting the LGBTQ community, particularly since Kira has claimed one or two of the letters.

For the first time in my life, I'm actually paying attention to politics (really, how can you NOT...it's a circus).

I'm back in therapy with, as I refer to him, "my first, best therapist", Ed. Ed had to close his practice for a number of years because of late-stage Lyme disease, and in the meantime I found another guy, but that wrapped up in January, and then I chanced it that I could go back to Ed, and voila! Now I see him twice a week, which is good.

I'm still single, although I have what Kira refers to as a "flirtationship" (and I prefer not to define) with Michael, a man who lives 1000 miles away, whom I met online several years ago and have not yet met in person. It's complicated. I -could- date, if I wanted to, but honestly I have no real interest in it at the moment. I'm more interested in getting myself in a better headspace, and in spending as much time as I can being a full-time mom, until my younger child graduates and flies away.

So there we are. I'll make random references to things that I may or may not explain, but that's the overall view at the moment. ~mk

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Spoon Theory

Jenny (The Bloggess) put something in her most recent book, "Furiously Happy." It was a piece written by Christine Miserandino on her blog. The piece was called "The Spoon Theory."

Go read it. I'll wait.

This piece resonated so thoroughly with me that I thought if I ever wrote anything even half as relevant to how my life is, I would be a goddess. It's perfect. It is -exactly- how to show someone who hasn't the first clue what it's like to live with an "invisible illness" (lupus, MS, mental illness, pick your poison), what the daily struggle is. Even though most people are STILL not going to get it that EVERY. SINGLE. DAY is like this. All of them. Even the good ones.

The bad days are when we didn't run the dishwasher, and all the spoons are dirty. ~mk